A relationship can leave a deep impact on our minds. Break ups and separation do happen in the most intimate of relationships and it does leave a scar behind which usually takes longer to heal than when we break up from a casual relationship.
A break up can take place due to misunderstandings, or sometimes trivial “ego” issues, after which the couple part ways even if they still carry feelings for their “ex” partner. But there is no rule which says that you cannot patch up after a break up no matter how harsh it might have been.
If there is still love left in your hearts you may as well bond back again.
It helps to know if your ex boyfriend still likes you, in other words, if he is considering patching up with you.
5 ways to find if Your Ex-boyfriend Still Loves You
Here are few hints to look out for to determine if your ex boyfriend is still in love with you:
1. Get in touch with his friends and ask about his behavior
You are sure to have made some mutual friends during your relationship together. You can get in touch with one such mutual friend and ask him/her to confidentially check up on your ex boyfriend’s behavior.
If you find out that your ex boyfriend is sulky, moody or depressed, it would point to the fact that he is missing you or is finding it hard to overcome his feelings for you.
He may not disclose his feelings to this mutual friend, but if his sadness is obvious, it’s evident that he is having a hard time with the break up.
2. If he calls you it means he misses you
After a break up, if he calls you up, it’s at the cost of swallowing his male ego. He would do that only if he still cares for you badly.
Even if he does not say anything over the call or if he’s quite cold while talking to you, the mere fact that he called up indicates that he can’t stop thinking about you.
3. Find out if he’s started dating again
It’s quite a small world out there and if both of you are living in the same locality or work in the same office, it’s quite easy to determine if he has started dating again.
When a guy becomes open to new relationships, it basically means that he has burnt his bridges behind him and he has recovered from his emotional pull. But if that’s not the case, and he is still single, he might have you written all over his heart and is finding it hard to open his heart up to someone else.
It’s true that many people start dating soon after the break up to help distract themselves or to fill the gap that’s suddenly introduced into their lives. But once he starts dating it won’t be long before he rewrites his memory with a new relationship.
4. Check if there is a change in his physical appearance
If he is going through a hard time getting over the break up, there is a good possibility that his personal hygiene has taken a back seat. The usual signs to watch out for are an overgrown stubble or beard, shoddy hair and poor dressing.
People in general tend get tremendously lazy when they go through a depressive spell and the last thing they bother about is their appearance. So if he doesn’t look his usual style, then he is certainly having a hard time taking you off his mind and is possibly still in love with you.
5. See what he’s saying on his facebook
It’s quite a norm for everyone to have a facebook account these days, where you can share your day with your friends. If your boyfriend has a facebook account, just check up on what he’s updating. Check if he has updated any photos of any new girlfriend or if he’s sharing the new happenings in his life. Guys get pretty active on the social networking circles when they are single and ready to mingle.
If he’s trying to find new “girl” friends or if the tone of his messages indicates that he’s quite happy about the break up, you can adjudge that he’s moved on.
But if he is not too active on social media, has made his profile private or is not posting as much, then he probably is still finding it hard to go through life without you.
In conclusion, if you want to find out if your ex boyfriend still likes you then there is no better way to do it than through some of his “discretionary” friends. You will get a truer picture of what he’s going through when it comes from his friends. These friends can also convey your message to him if you are looking to patch up, after all what are friends for?